Comments From Contributing Writer Jessica

I am honored to be this month's contributing writer.  Tansy is taking a break today to enjoy the holiday with her family. 

Actually, Tansy would like to contribute, but she is still reeling from the double blow that I dealt her today.  Everyone has their gifts, mine is cards.  I'm not unusually gifted, just unusually gifted for this family.  Especially when compared to Tansy.  She has heart and spirit, but that has never been enough to secure a victory against my genius. Despite her emotional outbursts and artistic movements , again and again she loses.

There is actually a life lesson tied into all of this. Sometimes the "good" guy doesn't win; sometimes no matter how hard we try it doesn't go our way. We may sweat over, research, pray through, etc a difficult situation believing we will win and still "lose". Do we then give up and say "whatever will be, will be"? I say no.

I have two kids of my own and I have often told them when working with a difficult personality "You don't know where that person is coming from. What is there home life? What are they going through that causes where they are?" This enables them to step back, have compassion, try a little understanding. In the case of the card games today, I needed these wins. I won't go into why, but I NEEDED these wins. She lost and met a need of mine. It hurt her, but did good ultimately. She gracefully gave to me a gift.

So I say sweat, research, pray and follow through and if in the end you still lose, take comfort in the fact you may have just provided a MUCH NEEDED gift for someone else.